May is Preeclampsia Awareness Month


As some of you may know, I developed preeclampsia somewhere in the neighborhood of 33-34 weeks with Whitlee and we were required to delivery early, via c-section at 34 weeks 2 days. (Read Whitlee’s birth story here) Since May is Preeclampsia awareness month, I wanted to make a post about the disease itself and how it affected our pregnancy, as well as how it will affect any future pregnancies.

In a nutshell, preeclampsia is a condition that occurs only during pregnancy and the postpartum period. Researchers do not yet know the exact cause, but it has been associated with reduced blood flow to the placenta. The placenta can react violently to this situation, and will begin dumping chemical proteins into your system, causing high blood pressure, presence of protein in the urine, swelling, sudden weight gain, headaches, and changes in vision. Severe preeclampsia can be life threatening to both mother and baby and currently the only treatment is delivery. Occasionally the symptoms can be managed to get the baby to a safer gestational point; in our case 34 weeks.


Common Misconceptions About Preeclampsia

Bed rest can delay the onset of preeclampsia, or make your case progress more slowly.

False. Trials have shown no strong evidence of bed rest benefit. Actually, according to the American College of Obstetrics and Gynecologists, “For women with gestational hypertension or preeclampsia without severe features, it is suggested that strict bed rest *not* be prescribed.”

Only overweight women get preeclampsia.

False, however obesity and excessive weight gain during pregnancy does raise your individual risk, as well as sudden weight gain being a primary symptom. I gained about 12 lbs in two weeks at the end with Whitlee, completely not normal.

If you had preeclampsia once, you’ll always have it with subsequent pregnancies.

Preeclampsia happens mostly in first pregnancies, but not only. If you’ve had it once, you are considered high risk to get it again, but additional factors play into your overall risk.

  • Side note – I recently realized that there is a shaky understanding of our pregnancy and birth with Whitlee. There has been a lot of second hand information, even third hand information, and most people simply know that we had a high risk pregnancy for whatever reason, she was delivered early (most don’t even know how early and assume the worst), and that she was required to stay in the NICU for a while (additionally, most don’t know for how long). They also assume that Whitlee will subsequently be an only child. While I did experience preeclampsia and she was delivered 6 weeks early, we were blessed that her NICU stay was pretty uneventful and comparatively short (20 days). We have discussed future pregnancies at length with our doctor and he has absolutely encouraged us to have more children, with confidence that my own individual risk is considerably lower than it was the first time.

Pregnant women shouldn’t be informed about the risk of getting preeclampsia, because it will just stress them out.

Pregnant women deserve knowledge of and resources related to this condition. Knowledge is power.

Preeclampsia is rare.

Try “as common as breast cancer,” even if you’ve never heard of preeclampsia. Worldwide, preeclampsia strikes as many as one in every 12 pregnancies (or 8%).

Tips for pregnant moms or if you’re thinking of having a baby in regard to preeclampsia:

Find a doctor that you trust. Our new doctor is fully aware of the situation at hand, and I feel like he’ll be quick to get a handle on anything that comes up. He’s also very communicative and explains things so that you understand them really well.

Know the symptoms and be aware of the changes in your own body. You can read more about the disease itself here and here. My own personal symptoms were sudden swelling in my feet and ankles, that later spread up my legs, and in my face. I also experienced some dizziness and nausea at a point when my blood pressure spiked, and sudden weight gain. I really just felt off there at the end. You should alert your doctor of anything you think might not be normal.

Know your own current and future risk factors and discuss them with your provider. Proper prenatal care is essential to diagnose and manage preeclampsia.

Happy May, guys! I can’t believe 2016 is almost halfway over. Whitlee’s 18 month blog post coming soon! Here’s an adorable picture from Whitlee’s NICU stay a year and a half ago!





World Prematurity Day | November 17

November 17 is world prematurity day and the whole month of November is prematurity awareness month. Did you know that 1 in 10 babies are born premature? I didn’t. While daydreaming about being a mother, I never fathomed my pregnancy would end at 34 weeks. Being the mom of a premature baby is h a r d. Leaving that hospital at discharge without my baby was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. It just felt sad and depressing and wrong. We had to wait nearly another month to get that momentous day of bringing home our baby. Visiting her in the NICU was both challenging and rewarding. Challenging for obvious reasons, but so rewarding to have every little milestone she accomplished celebrated with such joy. Nurses and other preemie parents cheer you on for the smallest of smalls but to you they are so big. 


I’m so proud of the smart, funny, beautiful child Whitlee has become. She keeps us on our toes but we are reminded every day, and especially today, how insanely blessed we are. Momma and Daddy love you, baby girl. You make our world go round. 

Read the beginning of our NICU journey here

NICU | Day 20

Whitlee’s 20th day in the NICU was her last! I called today at lunch to see about her getting to leave and they said to bring Nolan when I come so that means they were sending her home!



So after 20 long days of driving back and forth to see her, our sweet girl is finally home with us. We are thrilled and so in love with her! Happy graduation day, Whitlee!!

NICU | Day 19

Whitlee’s 19th day was another good one. I’d been telling Nolan that he needed to go with me during the day if he could because she’s so awake after she eats at 2 and she’s so fun to look at and talk to. So he was able to go today and she was perfect! She breastfed wonderfully then stayed awake just long enough to be adorable then went back to sleep.



She has also continued to eat everything by mouth and they told us to bring her car seat when we came back that evening for her car seat test! And I just got word that she passed that perfectly. She’s actually big enough now that the newborn insert that came with our carseat fits her great even though she’s not quite 5 lbs yet. Just an FYI, they make all preemie babies that have been on oxygen sit in their car seat for 90 minutes and make sure that A. they fit safely, and B. they don’t have any bradycardia or apnea spells, basically make sure they’re not going to get in their car seat to go home and freak out and stop breathing. But she passed, so that’s great news! That means as soon as her doctor gets back on Monday, he has to get caught back up on all of his patients, but I’m hoping like crazy she gets to go home. It should either be Monday or Tuesday! We’ve got lots of nurses and even my OB backing us saying she’s for sure ready to go. Tomorrow could be our big day! 🙂

NICU | Day 18

Day 18 of Whitlee’s stay in the NICU fell on 12-13-14. We basically knew early on there was a slim chance on me making it to my due date, so 12-13-14 was the day I was actually hoping to have her, as I would have been a day short of 37 weeks. Turns out 12-13-14 ended up being a significant day anyway. At 2pm, it marked 24 hours that our sweet girl had eaten everything by mouth! Her doctor won’t be back until Monday and the replacement doctor will not be discharging her, but she has finally met the last milestone! Now she just needs to keep up the eating so they don’t have any reason to put her tube back in, keep her weight up with all this extra work she’s doing (she’s 4lbs 11oz now!), and pass her car seat test. We are so excited and so proud! I hope we are home together as a family very soon!


NICU | Day 17

Today was another good day! Whitlee is doing really well in her open bassinet and starting to take more and more of her feedings. When I got there for my daytime visit, in 24 hours she’d taken all but her 11 pm and 11 am feedings by mouth, so that was a great improvement! She breastfed great for me and then we just rocked for a while like usual. She’s always wide awake this time of the time day unless we’re rocking and I’m holding her. As soon as I go to put her back in the crib, she’s awake. This is becoming her normal schedule though, she’s done it three days in a row. So I got her settled, even though she was awake, and let the nurse know she was back in her crib and awake, but seemed content and would probably eat good for her at 5 if she stayed awake.



Here’s the good part – when we went back for the evening, our favorite night nurse, Wendy, was back. She said she’d gotten there early and picked her favorite babies for the next few nights, which of course includes Whitlee. Then she said she’d been there for the 5 pm feeding and she’d sucked down her 40ml bottle in 8 minutes! I think she’s got this eating thing down! So Wendy was able to get a jump on her assessments for the night, and get all of her weighing and baths done. Whitlee is up to 4lbs 9oz now. Our girl is growing! Then she told us Whitlee had pulled her feeding tube out again… and that she was going to leave it out for as long as she takes her feedings by mouth! Her theory is (and I’ve personally witnessed it happen) is that babies that are on the verge of eating all feedings by mouth will normally go ahead and do it if you’ll take their tube out. There was a baby boy in there recently that was at the same point as Whitlee and kept gagging every time he’d eat, then he’d fight the bottle, so they’d drop the rest down his tube. Wendy let him keep his tube out after he pulled it out, thinking it was the tube irritating him, and she was right – he went home like two days later! Unfortunately, Whitlee’s doctor is out for the weekend so even if she does amazing, the replacement doctor doesn’t like to discharge babies that aren’t her admits, so we’d have to beg and really make her case, but it’s possible. Or it could end up being a situation where her doctor comes back Monday and the nurses are like, “Look how good Whitlee did while you were gone. Can she go home now?” I’m hoping, praying, wishing on shooting stars (I saw one on the way to the hospital tonight), wishing on 11:11, and crossing my fingers and toes that it’s soon!!


Even at nearly 5 lbs, she still looks tiny with her Daddy!

Update – I called the NICU this morning while pumping (which is actually Day 18) to find out how she did through the night and she’s still going strong without her tube!! She has taken all of her feedings by mouth since 2pm yesterday. She just needs to keep it up and she can leave the tube out and come home very very soon!

NICU | Day 16

Our girl is finally in an open bassinet!!



They gave her a little Christmas hat!

Today was a really big day for her. She moved to the open bassinet and just suddenly seemed so big. Her umbilical cord stump has fallen off also. To me that means it is definitely time to come home! (Unfortunately, she hasn’t quitteee met the next milestone.) She breastfed like a champ for my daytime visit and was wide awake when I left,  causing me to worry she’d be thrown off again for the evening.


But her nurse called me later that evening and said she’d stayed awake all the way to her next feeding and that she’d taken the entire bottle by mouth and was finally asleep. Then when we went back for the feeding after that, she ate again for me – just barely enough though. She was very very sleepy. But I feel like her taking three feedings in a row by mouth is a major leap forward. I was hoping that being in the open bassinet would help something click for her on the eating front. This is her last major milestone – she just has to eat everything by mouth for 24 hours, but also maintain her body temp and weight gain. She should also be getting close to her car seat test!